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Bill Maher Celebrates Valentine’s Day By Discussing Porn

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Saturday, February, 12th, 2011, 1:45 pm

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In honor of Valentine’s Day, Real Time host Bill Maher discussed America’s addiction to porn. Maher attributed America’s porn problem to laziness. He said, “To be honest about our porn addiction, it’s not that Americans are oversexed. It’s that we are catastrophically lazy.”

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Maher said, “If your wife says hurry up, we’re going to be late for our Valentine’s dinner and you reply just a minute honey I’m almost done masturbating, you might have a porn problem. Now I bring this up because there is a crisis in America. A full 91% of men in America can’t get an erection without hearing this sound. Now I made that statistic up because statistics on porn are hard to come by mainly because when you do a Google search for them you end up looking at porn, and suddenly, it’s 3 hours later and the dog is starving. But it is true that in far too many marriages these days the husband comes home from work and goes straight to the den to look at porn, while the poor wife is alone upstairs, and between him masturbating at the keyboard, and her crying herself to sleep, who can keep that much Kleenex in the house?”

The Real Time host made it clear that he isn’t anti-porn, “Well I know what you’re thinking. Bill Maher anti-porn, that’s like the Pope being anti-wearing a dress. I’m not anti-porn. I’m just saying masturbation has its place, and that place is Plan B when you can’t get the real thing. For me, that was college. No truly, it filled the hole in me when I had no hole to fill. But now psychologists are telling us that for a sizable percentage of men in America, masturbating to porn is Plan A, and doing it with your wife or girlfriend is more like a fallback option for when the power goes out.”

Maher continued, “What worse when someone spends 12 hours a day looking at porn, you build up a tolerance and you need more to get the same high. You literally jack yourself into a corner. So you move on to fetish sites, then weird Japanese porn where a schoolgirl is being molested on a bullet train by Godzilla. Before you know it, you’re into stuff the Germans like, horrifying, slimy, violent ideas punctuated by the sounds of womanly sobbing. Like an interview with John Boehner.”

Maher gave his reason for America’s porn addiction, “And to be honest about our porn addiction, it’s not that Americans are oversexed. It’s that we are catastrophically lazy. We’d rather sit on our sofa and show on wing wang to strangers on chat roulette, than go schlep out to Houlihan’s and try to pick up a secretary that’s had one too many Mai Ties. We’ve become a nation cooch potatoes. Guys are home like hey, I’m getting action, and I don’t even have to brush my teeth. Real actual sex? Not tonight honey, I’m horny.”

Maher concluded, “I mean it’s pretty amazing. For men it only took a couple of decades for men to discover that women can have orgasms and deciding that giving them one is too much trouble.”

Bill Maher is correct. Porn does have its place, but unless you are alone, that place should not be as a substitute for your partner. I don’t know how many times I hear single guys complain that they can’t meet someone, but they spend their free time parked in front of their laptop watching porn. Then when these same guys do meet a woman, they spend their time, picking her apart, and unconsciously comparing her to the women that they have grown accustomed to seeing on their screen.

The point is that psychologically porn can play a role in establishing false expectations. The woman you might meet at work, or school, or over drinks on a Saturday night is not going look and act like a porn star. Porn is nothing more than the fulfillment of some male sexual fantasies. Most men know that it isn’t reality, but for some their view of reality unconsciously changes with prolonged exposure to porn. The role of the woman in porn is that of the subservient sex object. It is an imaginary fantasy that no woman should be forced to try to live up to. I have always had a personal theory that men who feel disempowered in their relationships substitute the porn fantasy for their real lives. Watching hours of porn daily vicariously revives their sense of empowerment.

The rising usage of porn in male culture is also a reflection of how technology has helped fracture our basic human communication skills. This phenomenon is visible all through our society. Many people today don’t go to a classroom, they have class online. Our social interactions and new friendships are often born and carried out entirely on the Internet. Fewer people physically volunteer in their communities instead activism has become a mouse click or a credit card donation. The dependence on porn means that for some even sex has become a bowling alone activity.

I think the men who are addicted to porn are either self-medicating, or like many other Americans have lost their basic ability to meet and talk to people face to face. At a fundamental human level choosing to watch porn instead of having sex with your wife/husband/boyfriend./girlfriend is not an OK behavior, and that was Bill Maher’s point. No one is saying that porn is evil, or should be banned, but that if you have someone who wants to have sex with you in your life, what in hell are you doing watching porn?

Wrapped in all of his jokes, Maher had a serious point. Porn will not alleviate your loneliness it will only prolong it, and there is something wrong with a culture when a person would rather look at a stranger than be with their own partner.

America does have a porn addiction, but the problem isn’t the porn. It is that we are becoming a society that is forgetting how to reach out and interact with one another. Porn is the symptom, but disconnect and isolation are the disease.

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