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I Would Like to Say Goodbye to Patriarchy
By: Hrafnkell HaraldssonSep. 29th, 2012more from Hrafnkell Haraldsson
I would like to take the time to say goodbye to patriarchy. I’d like to say goodbye to the idea that women are nothing but sexual playthings, something to be undressed, or something to be used to satisfy the male ego. I would like to put forward the idea that women are people too, somebody who, like another guy, you can pal around, not somebody to get drunk and take advantage of. I’d like to put forward that idea that we can talk to women and take what they have to say seriously. The idea that on some basic level, women are absolutely equal with men, and like the Constitution says, have the same inalienable rights.
Sadly, I cannot say any of that. Patriarchy shows no sign of going quietly into the night. Look at not only the anti-woman legislation coming from Republicans everywhere, legislation attacking women’s reproductive choices and health, but at comments about rape, about equal pay for equal work. Can we really expect people who think women’s bodies are magical to treat women like people? It was one thing for ancient peoples to be confused by the workings of the human body but in the 21st century, we know where babies come from.
At least, liberals do.
Why do Republicans cling to ideas that, like David Niose said, would have been out of date a century ago?
Look at Todd Akin and his rape comments. And he’s not alone or even the first. Imagine having somebody running as a major-party vice presidential candidate who thinks there is such a thing as “forcible” rape? And we do. I think Abe Lincoln would have bitch-slapped Paul Ryan and felled him like a rotten tree.
But look at that charming smile.
Todd Akin had something to say about pay too, you know. He isn’t just interested in raping women’s bodies. He wants to rape them economically too.
He says businesses should be able to pay women less than men, showing that on a fundamental level Tood Akin misunderstands the principles upon which America was founded.
He defended voting against the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act by saying,
Well, first of all, the premise of your question is that I’m making that particular distinction. I believe in free enterprise. I don’t think the government should be telling people what you pay and what you don’t pay. I think it’s about freedom. If someone what’s to hire somebody and they agree on a salary, that’s fine, however it wants to work. So, the government sticking its nose into all kinds of things has gotten us into huge trouble.
Coming from a politician belonging to a party that has also attacking restrictions on child labor, perhaps this attitude should not surprise us. After all, how successful can a wealthy Republican be if he can’t underpay and overwork the women and children? After all, if they’re not weak and malnourished enough he won’t be able to get to the lifeboats ahead of them when the ocean liner sinks.
Meanwhile, Forbes reported in May that “former General Electric chairman and chief Jack Welch thinks women just aren’t working hard enough.”
Oh, that’s all it is. Men get paid more because they work harder? There you go ladies.
Forbes’ Jenn Goudreau was moved to say, “It should be no surprise to anyone breathing that performance matters. But by the way Welch framed this conversation, one would infer that he assumes women are just 3% of corporate CEOs, 7% of top earners, 14% of executive officers and 16% of board members because they’re slacking off.”
Women haven’t missed all this. They are as aware of what Republicans are saying – and doing – as they are of what President Obama is saying – and doing. They heard Obama when he said, “My administration will continue to fight for a woman’s right for equal pay for equal work.”
Ann Romney says she wants women to wake up, but I think women have woken up. What is this Republican message, that patriarchy is good for you? That it’s all for your own good, and by the way, yes, we insist?
After all, what business do women have working in the first place? They’re supposed to be at home, pregnant and having babies and taking care of her man. What difference does it make that as CNN reported back in 2004, midway through Bush’s administration, that “according to the AFL-CIO, the average 25-year-old woman who works full-time, year-round until she retires at age 65 (if that’s when she’s able to retire) will earn $523,000 less than the average working man?”
It’s all because of the woman’s choices. Like rape, it’s all the woman’s fault.
Yeah, I don’t think we’re at patriarchy’s end, just yet. That same CNN article predicated equal pay not before 2050, leaving another couple of generations of women to work their fingers to the bone for less. Another Republican administration bent on imposing patriarchal values out of the Bible rather than Democratic values out of the U.S. Constitution will set women back even farther.
Lilly Ledbetter, in a special report to the CNN Election Center, wrote back in April that America has Romney’s answer on the question of equal pay for women: crickets. We’ll get back to you on that. Given a chance to embrace and engage America’s women, the Romney campaign acted like deer in headlights.
There is no doubt Romney would like women to vote for him. But Romney can’t appeal to women without enraging the patriarchal forces he so much depends upon, the voices of religious extremism and bigotry. He wants women to vote for him anyway, just because, I suppose, it’s a woman’s place to do what a man wants her to do.
I don’t call that much of a sales pitch. The simple fact is that in the America of 2012, the forces of patriarchy have coalesced in the Republican Party. It’s not to say there aren’t misogynists out there who are liberals or progressives, but as a party, as a politico-theological movement, the GOP has embraced the ancient idea that man is the master and woman should submit to him simply because that’s how God wants it.
You can’t reason with these people because they will tell you that you don’t negotiate with God. The only defense you have is to keep them out of power in the first place. And keep in the back of your mind the fact that the last time they were in a position of authority like that, they kept it for over sixteen hundred years.
I don’t know about you, but if they win, talk of equal pay in 2050 is hopelessly optimistic
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Reynardine
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 8:27 am
If they win, talk of the Nineteenth Amendment, still existing in 2050 will be hopelessly optimistic. In fact, I’m worried about the 13th.
Michell
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 8:45 am
It is easy to see that these Oligarch’s want to see the “lower classes” back in chains, for the women, back in the kitchen, and hey, who knows”, maybe plural (traditional) marriage legal and on the books. I feel nothing but contempt for these snake oil salesmen. What galls me is the women who stand up and loudly defend them, what “poor, defenseless” creatures they must be. They have already had their abortions, paid for by their rich hubbies, and will be absolved of their sins as long as their Husbands make it into Heaven. What a load of crap. For the secular population, this Heaven/Hell garbage is downright annoying. Since when do we base our decision about an entire nation on a children’s book and it’s followers who only quote the convenient parts and leave out the parts about being decent human beings? I vote we don’t! Obama/Biden 2012!!!!
Mary
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 11:38 am
Akin is a pathetic teahater who believes that the government should only interfer in the most major parts of a womens life. Everytime he opens his ugly mouth many more decide to vote for Clair.
robyn ryan
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 12:19 pm
I’ll spring for the cost of neutering him…. I’d DIY it.
Reynardine
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 1:59 pm
Meeetooo. No anesthetic. I can give you instructions on how to do it with simple tools, or you can get these rubber bands…
Jim Faubel
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 12:55 pm
I would also like to say “Goodbye” to Patriarchy. It is, by far, one of the most pernicious myths in the history of “mankind”. Unfortunately, it, like most major myths, is unlikely to go away soon.
Johnee
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 1:37 pm
It may be a lingering “myth”, however both women (Ann Romney anyone?) and men help perpetuate it. A significant number of women of that mind set, want to help keep what they see as their sheltered status, with the man providing and protecting them.
SinghX
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 8:13 pm
It’s not just that certain women perpetuate the myth, it’s that it’s become a psychological crutch.
It’s a no longer necessary for a woman to be with a man for “protection” unless you are in a dangerous, unusual profession (as in wearing a weapon at all times; even then, gender shouldn’t be an issue). There are situations where a larger framed male is a needed–paid body guards are legitimate business people and don’t expect sex as payment.
It is no longer necessary to be with a man for shelter as there are plenty of options and choices in this country–women are free to roam the plains…
Multigenerational dysfunctional gender games are huge psychological “crutches” for both sexes. They are a major cause of our socially retar*ed pseudo status games…people lean on generational myths, superstitions, “games” as a way to fit into our socially retar*ed society…they rely on a path laid out for them because they have no problem blindly following mythical rules of “patriarch authority”. These people abide by the “rules” of these myths/superstitions even if they themselves consider them unfair! They perpetuating a fiction and don’t even know it…These people are called homoclites.
Rho
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 12:58 pm
These guys don’t want a democracy, they want to go back to the Feudal Age, with serfs and tenant farmers, and the church lording over it all, just like in 1050. You would think that after nearly a millennium, their way of thinking would not not still be in the Dark Ages. If more minds would open, so would compassion.
Johnee
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 1:17 pm
Hraf, for some time now, most of the west has signed on to what you are talking about. I think it’s important to make the distinction between most men, and the republitards that want to drag us kicking and screaming back to the dark ages.
Anne
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 3:10 pm
Hraf, I love the depiction of the yokel who wants to keep anyone not white, Christian, male, straight, or right-wing down on the false premise that they are “ruining” his life, along with the snake oil salesman who is laughing at the fool that doesn’t realize the salesman is ruining his life. That depiction summarizes the delusional folks who consistently vote against their own interests after being fed a steaming pile of malarkey that those “others” are robbing them of their birthrights. The thing about patriarchy that differentiates it from other forms of prejudice is that it is perpetrated and perpetuated in the name of love. Then there are women who help to perpetuate it because they benefit financially, and they only think about themselves rather than its pernicious effects on all women and even men. This is yet another reason to not only vote out all Republicans, but to keep others from acquiring political power. It would be good to have 2 viable parties with constructive–although different–solutions to our problems. But the GOP is no longer such a party.
Johnee
Sep. 29th, 2012 at 4:10 pm
Wow. Well said.