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Repression = Aggression Against an Entire Population in the Name of God
The homophobic flood gates opened and the sewers are filling with hate and self-loathing by voices consumed by fear. Because this is an article and not a book I am limited by space and will name only a few of the top personalities that come to mind who wage war daily – within themselves and outwardly toward the entire LGBT community. This list could fill a directory, but as I enter into this discussion the following names stand out:
”Marital sex tends toward the boring end. Generally, it doesn’t deliver the kind of sheer sexual pleasure that homosexual sex does. If you isolate sexuality as something solely for one’s own personal amusement, if all you want is the most satisfying orgasm you can get, then homosexuality seems too powerful to resist.” — Interview with Rolling Stone, 1999
You see why I submit the repression theory for discussion. I mean this guy makes unbelievable statements including this latest disgusting litany of filth directed at the gay community on the VCY Crosstalk Radio program which calls itself “Christian Information Radio”, by the way.
Only someone filled with an overwhelming self-hatred could muster that level of vile. They seem to be obsessed 24/7 – 365 days of the year with the topic of homosexuality. Since this topic is not going away on the heels of President Obama’s interview endorsing same-sex marriage, we need to take the time to understand what we can about these extremists. We are talking fear at its highest level of anxiety for these men.
First, let’s examine the very real dilemma that presents when people struggle with a deep-seeded self-loathing after desperate attempts to deny their own sexual identities fail. These anxieties can manifest in various ways, and for many it is contained and private. In the worst scenarios it seems that there are two divergent roads one can take that either result in suicide when the person can no longer deal with the internal conflict – or the uncontrollable obsession to lash out and do it with venom. It is common for these individuals to drown themselves in religious doctrine to justify their intolerance invoking God as their authority. This is a form of Internalized Homophobia by people who force themselves to self-identity as heterosexual.
Internalized Homophobia
The phrase internalized sexual stigma is sometimes used in place to represent internalized homophobia. An internalized stigma is when a person believes negative stereotypes about themselves, regardless where the stereotype comes from. Internalized homophobia can cause discomfort with and disapproval of one’s own sexual orientation.
Some studies have shown that people who are homophobic have repressed their own homosexual desires. In 1996, a controlled study of 64 heterosexual men (half said they were homophobic by experience, with self-reported orientation) at the University of Georgia found that men who were found to be homophobic (as measured by the Index of Homophobia) were considerably more likely to experience more erectile responses when exposed to homoerotic images than non-homophobic men.
Another study in 2012 came to similar findings when researchers found that students who came from “the most rigid anti-gay homes” were most likely to to reveal repressed homosexual attraction. The researchers noted that this explained why some religious leaders who denounce homosexuality are later revealed to be having secret homosexual relations, like Reverend Ted Haggard, The researchers noted that “these people are at war with themselves and are turning this internal conflict outward.”
Ego-Dystonic Homophobia
Ego-dystonic sexual orientation or egodystonic homophobia, for instance, is a condition characterized by having a sexual orientation or an attraction that is at odds with one’s idealized self-image, causing anxiety and a desire to change one’s orientation or become more comfortable with one’s sexual orientation. Such a situation may cause extreme repression of homosexual desires. In other cases, a conscious internal struggle may occur for some time, often pitting deeply held religious or social beliefs against strong sexual and emotional desires.
Social homophobiaThe fear of being identified as gay can be considered as a form of social homophobia. Theorists including Calvin Thomas and Judith Butler have suggested that homophobia can be rooted in an individual’s fear of being identified as gay. Homophobia in men is correlated with insecurity about masculinity.For this reason, allegedly homophobia is rampant in sports, and in the subculture of its supporters, that are considered stereotypically “male”, such as association football and rugby.
These theorists have argued that a person who expresses homophobic thoughts and feelings does so not only to communicate their beliefs about the class of gay people, but also to distance themselves from this class and its social status. Thus, by distancing themselves from gay people, they are reaffirming their role as a heterosexual in a heteronormative culture, thereby attempting to prevent themselves from being labeled and treated as a gay person. This interpretation alludes to the idea that a person may posit violent opposition to “the Other” as a means of establishing their own identity as part of the majority and thus gaining social validation. Nancy J. Chodorow states that homophobia can be viewed as a method of protection of male masculinity.
Various psychoanalytic theories explain homophobia as a threat to an individual’s own same-sex impulses, whether those impulses are imminent or merely hypothetical. This threat causes repression, denial or reaction formation. ~ Wikipedia
As I pointed out, the internal struggles can manifest in outward aggression toward the object that represents what the person most hates about oneself. It is – to be sure – a horrible existence for these individuals. But when this dynamic is coupled with the “deeply held religious or social beliefs” fighting against their own “strong sexual and emotional desires” then we see a dark and ugly outcome that emerges as an obsessive campaign of hate.
Yes, HOCD is a real diagnosis under Anxiety Disorders. Below is an article written that attempts to help people understand their thoughts, feelings and urges.
Homosexuality Anxiety
Obsessive-compulsive disorder involves intrusive thoughts that are unwanted and distressing to the individual. Sometimes these thoughts take the form of persistent notions about having a different sexual orientation. For example, a person who has had many years of satisfied, opposite sex relationships might suddenly start to worry that he or she is actually homosexual. Some people who have this manifestation of OCD have taken to calling this “HOCD” or “Homosexual OCD.” HOCD is not a scientific term, but has evolved out of the OCD community as a way to describe the distress caused by anxieties over unwanted thoughts about being gay.
Clinicians, educators, and people with HOCD can use the table below to better understand differences between the experience of someone with HOCD and the experience of someone with a homosexual sexual identity. Note that this is not a clinical screening instrument as it has not been validated for use in this manner, and not all items will apply to every person. Furthermore, the second column applies to a relatively well-adjusted gay person. A homosexual person with severe internalized homophobia may not be well represented in either category.
Homosexuality Anxiety OCD Homosexual Orientation You feel more sexually aroused by people of the opposite sex. You feel more sexually aroused by people of the same sex. Your thoughts about engaging in same-sex relationships are unappealing to you. Your thoughts about engaging in same-sex relationships are arousing to you. You feel anxious about romantic relationships with people of the same sex. You look forward to romantic relationships with people of the same sex. You have most enjoyed sexual experiences with a person of the opposite sex. You have most enjoyed sexual experiences with a person of the same sex. You worry about your same-sex thoughts mainly because you don’t want to give up being with people of the opposite sex. You worry about your same-sex thoughts mainly because of what others might think or because of religious concerns. You are not able to stop thinking about same-sex relationships, and the thoughts are a severe distraction. Even though you often think about same-sex relationships, you are able to stop thinking about it when you need to. You feel emotional intimacy with a partner of the opposite sex. You feel emotional intimacy with a partner of the same sex. You are worried that people of the same sex might find you attractive. You like when people of the same sex find you attractive. You fantasize about being in physical relationships with people of the opposite sex (including dreams). You fantasize about being in physical relationships with people of the same sex (including dreams). You try to learn more about sexual identity issues to reassure yourself that you are not gay. You try to learn more about sexual identity issues to better understand yourself and others like you.
I have to conclude with this video clip from Jon Stewart who had Jerry Seinfeld help him in a skit about Michelle Bachmann’s husband – Marcus – who makes his living through a clinic that he established to “pray away the gay” so that homosexuals will renounce their sexuality and choose to be straight. A practice that has been categorically repudiated by the professional psychological community as a total sham. Nonetheless, even Mitt Romney has financially supported this absurdity to pray away the gay.
If Marcus doesn’t embody the walking, talking example of repression, I honestly don’t know who does – and my gaydar is very honed. I end this with Stewart’s humor, but this is really addressing the root of so much hate against the LGBT community. Imagine - if they could just find a way to resolve their inner loathing we could all move on to really major political problems and this would be a non-issue in a country where discrimination no longer existed against “The Others”. They are more obsessed with homosexual sex than homosexuals are.
These are faux Christians – Dominionists – who are bible-based cult followers of a scripture-twisted version of Christianity that somehow justifies hate, intolerance, discrimination, sitting in judgment, and persecuting those who are not like them. I am a Christian Agnostic in large part because of Dominionist Christians and their horrific theology chasing me further and further from my faith. These people are obsessed with forcing their views and rules on everyone else. This includes insinuating their homophobic hate into our military through legislation to allow bullying which I wrote about today at God’s Own Party?
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Reynardine
May. 19th, 2012 at 8:54 pm
Perhaps one of the most destructive ways of dealing with HOCD is by projecting one’s fears onto one’s child. We’ve all seen that odious quote where a father was advised to beat his four-year-old son for being “effeminate”. Many male children, I think, may have actually been driven into identity/orientation problems by harsh treatment designed to make him “manly”. I recall listening with horror to parents describing how they locked their six-year-old son out of the house when he was being pursued by bullies, to make him “fight it out” and “learn what it is to be a man”; he grew up to be gay, they said, “anyway”, but I can’t say he didn’t do it because their definition of “real manhood” was so cruel and terrifying. Similarly, a mother denying her own same-sex attractions might see her small daughter’s tomboyish activities or expressions of disgust with boys as signs that she is raising “a little dyke”- and what will people think? Homosexuals can make good parents, but these people- never.
Jeff R
May. 20th, 2012 at 2:28 am
The treatment you describe IS horrid, but I cannot buy the assertion that people “turn” gay due to environmental factors, even constant abuse by their parents. You’re saying that people are not born hetero or homosexual, they become hetero or homosexual. THAT is an admission of the anti-gay bigots’ (AGBs) most essential belief.
AGBs MUST believe that God did not make anyone homosexual, because if God did and AGBs continue to hate and discriminate against gay people,then AGBs are guilty of blasphemy against the God they claim to love and worship.
Reynardine
May. 20th, 2012 at 6:24 am
No. Their assertion is that people choose to be gay, which is not my assertion. (I knew I was going to run into this). Of a group of people exhibiting, let us say, deep tan skin, one has been born with a genotype that makes them that color without strong solar exposure, one has a skin genetically able to tan and has had the extra solar exposure, one uses spray-on, and one has Addison’s disease. They look similar, but the causes are unrelated. And that’s a simple trait. Anything as complex as sexual orientation is going to have too many factors, any number of which may be interacting in different ways, to say there is “a” cause. I am certain that free choice is not a cause. I am also certain that the majority of people have some degree of bisexuality, and that there are quite a few factors- physical, cultural, hormonal, and fortuitous- that determine whether and how this is expressed in adulthood.
It is certain the child whose parents locked him out to be beaten by bullies got an extremely negative impression of “real manhood”. Not every child with such an impression grows up “gay” by anyone’s definition, but all children so treated are going to grow up miserable, and that’s a compelling reason not to.
mo thompson
May. 19th, 2012 at 9:38 pm
i hope no one ever becomes disenchanted with christianity because of the dominionists and other, as you so well put it, faux christians. real christianity needs all the sensible sane people it can get. as does our country and our culture. and paul cameron totally wants a boyfriend.
Shiva (Moderator)
May. 19th, 2012 at 10:16 pm
I am glad you see the difference. SO many people read many articles and think its about christians and its not
Leah L Burton
May. 19th, 2012 at 10:55 pm
Mo…I am so with you. I understand what you are saying. This is never about being critical of mainstream Christianity…it is absolutely about calling out extremists…and these people fit the profile. Tell me the difference between the Fundamentalist – Christian or Muslim.
Exactly! Nada…
A Walkaway
May. 21st, 2012 at 1:15 pm
Mo, in spite of the living hell those damned “Good Christians” put us through (for longer than the past 30 years), I am still Christian, although I don’t really understand why and sometimes wish I wasn’t. I think part of it is because I’ve read Jesus’ own words and think they’re more important than the rest of the book… and know that the rest of the book isn’t flawless as I’d been taught. I also have a part of myself that always comes back to Christianity, even in the face of some of the most awful treatment anyone could experience (well, I think being raped by a preacher or priest would be worse). It’s not very logical, but it’s a part of me and I could no more eliminate it than someone would willingly eliminate a necessary part of their body.
I separate the religion into two groups… the “Good Christians” who think they’re so good and godly, and create such misery for others (by being dogmatic and legalistic and so on). Then there are the REAL Christians, for whom dogma, theology, etc. are less important than people… and who try to practice “Do unto others what you’d want them to do to you”. The real Christians listen to what Jesus taught and pay less attention to what was taught ABOUT him. I grant that there are probably a lot of mainstream Christians who don’t actually think about what they’ve supported and said/done (and who could be added to the “Real Christian” designation), but as a general rule I distrust all of the “Christian” churches and those in them because they do tend towards legalism and being judgmental (and so many of them have been steeplejacked that it’s scary).
The one thing I can say above all others is that it has been my experience that conservatives are ALWAYS harsh, uncaring (when you really come to it), and cruel… the inverse of what Jesus taught. Liberals, the ones that were so vilified in ALL of the churches I used to attend (including Episcopal churches) and who to my sadness I rejected and avoided for most of my life, turned out to be the most Christ-like, even those who were not Christian. So, in my mind, “Conservative Christian” is an oxymoron.
Morgan Sheridan
May. 22nd, 2012 at 4:33 pm
I am disenchanted with the regular Christians because their silence lets the the loud, vocal hatemongers thrive and prosper.
Reynardine
May. 19th, 2012 at 9:50 pm
I would add, however, that Mr. Cameron’s statement is plain on its face. He do sound like he’s speaking from personal experience.
Shiva (Moderator)
May. 19th, 2012 at 10:11 pm
Look what our Gordon Klingenschmitt did yesterday
www.rawstory.com/rs/2012/...
I guess you can tell by the link lol
Paul Cameron is a complete idiot. You have to go a ways to beat him for stupidity
I worked down here in tennessee with a baptist elder who was a pretty good fellow. I mentioned to him that no man existed that hadnt at least had 1 homosexual thought. He denied it vehemently but had guilt all over his face. It was hilarious.
I think this gay bashing and birth control has at its base “in part” the fact that whites wont be the majority forever.
A Walkaway
May. 19th, 2012 at 10:14 pm
Then there is this too… the dominionist churches used to preach that the homosexuals were going to FORCE people to “become gay” (they even had “proof” – a section of a “gay magazine” that called for a law making rejection of gay advances a crime – I now know that was faked). That causes a lot of anxiety and fear and that fear can be a driving force behind discrimination. When I was in the Assemblies of God, that was what I’d been taught (and believed)… and I am ashamed of the things I did to LGBT people and groups back in “those days” – with the full encouragement of the preachers and other “Good Christians” I might add. I had no interest in other men and am about as straight as one can get, but feared gays because of what I’d been told.
Learning that LGBT people weren’t out to try to force me into sexual activities I had no interest in was freeing. I now know that everything those churches taught – EVERYTHING, was a lie or a truth used to support a lie. Upshot – now about a third of my friends are LGBT, most in long term relationships, and “couple-friends” with both my wife and myself.
One other little tidbit… I did some research one year at a rest stop on the interstate. While we weren’t looking at anything to do with sexuality, one of the things we noticed was the number of older men trolling the area, looking for “dates”. I once walked out into a swampy area (looking at the incredible plant diversity) and noticed used condoms all over the place. The people who cleaned the restrooms said that they had a constant problem with this behavior and that they wished it would stop.
I talked with some of my gay friends, and they said that those guys were men who had been raised with violent hostility towards their own orientation, and thus were punishing themselves in a way (by doing the most risky of behaviors) – including having sex in an area that had “beware of rattlesnakes” signs. My friends also said that those guys usually were secretly hoping they WOULD get caught, but at the same time trying to hide it.
The friends who told me this were obviously quite sad and even upset about it, and admitted that they really felt bad for the older men who couldn’t accept what and who they were.
So much harm, and all of it lies at the feet of the “Good Christians” with their standards of right and wrong, which don’t take reality into account. I can also say that when a very good friend of mine came out, his whole demeanor changed… he went from being very uptight and tense, to relaxed and open. It actually made our friendship better! If only people could learn to accept themselves as they are!!!
Hallagon
May. 19th, 2012 at 11:30 pm
So when gays call straight people names like homophobe and bigot that makes it just alright. When they try to shame us for not supporting them and don’t want to respect are beliefs that is alright too. You know it takes two to tango friends.
Leah L Burton
May. 19th, 2012 at 11:36 pm
Very loose with that term friend Hallogen. A “friend” does not fight to take rights away. A “friend” does not infer that because someone is homosexual that they are unfit to be a – parent…spouse…person.
Shame YOU? Really??? Honestly? You have GOT to be kidding me. Go tango elsewhere…kumbaya “my friend”.
Scott
May. 20th, 2012 at 7:20 am
That’s an amusing quote by Paul Cameron. Only someone who’s experienced gay sex would even consider saying such a thing.
The facts are in, folks. Politicians and religious nutbags who are the most outspoken about gays have, without exception, been proven to be closeted gay men.
In addition, the studies have all shown now that bullies who direct their ire toward those perceived to be gay are themselves closet cases as well.
We live in an age of the Internet, science, VIDEO and audio. These closet cases can’t escape scrutiny anymore. We hear and see them diss gays – and then we watch them fall to the ground, their wax wings melted, their pants around their ankles, their feet tapping, their meth purchases discovered.
In addition, they fail even to use their Bibles correctly. They DARE to shout about Bronze and Iron Age edicts from an imaginary deity worshipped by tribal Jews.
I laugh in their faces for even trying to clobber gays with a book of mythology.
Science, bitches. It works.
Leah L Burton
May. 20th, 2012 at 3:36 pm
You are so right, Scott…the proof is out there for all to view. In this day and age of the Internet it is virtually impossible to go unnoticed. Even those bigots known locally hit national levels of notoriety like the 15 listed at this link:
www.ranker.com/list/top-1...
SinghX
May. 20th, 2012 at 8:39 am
My only hope for the “eternal salvation” of the poor, misguided, sexually obsessed fundamentalist straight people is that the they will keep whipping themselves into a hate-filled rant of “biblical proportions”, en mass, and, in their rage, forget the church defibrillator or find it locked in the closet (they had to because that silly old queen Cameron kept “borrowing it” to show is friends how to used it)…it’s their only hope in this gay old world…