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Mrs. Cleaver’s America is Dead – and Thank God For It
By: Hrafnkell HaraldssonNov. 11th, 2012more from Hrafnkell Haraldsson

Ross Douthat, for example, takes to the New York Times to argue that not only will the Republican Party have to shift its position on immigration reform, but it will have to shift on the matter of economics as well. He acknowledges the effect of changing demographics on the political landscape.
But not once does he mention the Republican War on Women. Not once, in fact, does he even mention “women,” not in the singular or in the plural. He does not mention the word gay, as in “gay marriage,” or marriage equality.
He does not mention the word, “rape.”
What Republicans lack as this year of 2012 draws to a close, is a comprehension of just what, exactly, they have presented themselves as. To a man (and it’s mostly men), they blinded themselves to the reality of what they have become.
It is no longer the 1950s.
We can excuse them by saying that, in a sense, they have been frozen since 1964, when Goldwater’s defeat killed the Grand Old Party and triggered the rise of God’s Own Party. Let’s face it: almost five decades is plenty enough time for a political party to forget its origins.
That’s a long brainwashing.
America, however, refused to be brainwashed along with the GOP. The inevitable result was that the GOP found itself in this year of 2012, five decades out of date.
Golly, Mrs. Cleaver, has it been fifty years already?
Yes, it has, and it’s time to wake up. Snap out of it. You too, Mr. Douthat.
Pretend moderation is not moderation at all. It’s avoidance of the actual problem. What is really a plurality of problems.
The Republican Party has an old fashioned approach to everything sexual and everything gender-related. They stand by the old idea of the man being the power and authority in the family and wife being the submissive, stay-at-home type, unless it suits them to have a Michele Bachmann or a Sarah Palin to rally the fanatics. And if the woman gets paid less than the man for doing the same job, why, that’s the woman’s own fault. Just like its her fault when she gets pregnant. Just like it’s her fault when she gets raped.
They stand by the old interpretation of marriage. Well, not the most ancient interpretation, whatever they want to believe, but a long-standing one, that a marriage is between one man and one woman.
They stand by the old interpretation (at least in the West) of religion. That is, religion is Christianity and nothing but. Only Chritianity deserves First Amendment protections.
They stand by the old idea that women cannot be their own people, not from birth to death. Always, a woman must let a man take care of her, to protect her from making emotional decisions that will compromise her.
And they stand by the good ole boy idea that really, rape is just another form of conception. Lay back and enjoy it.
The world outside the GOP’s self-made bubble reality has moved right along. The world has dealt with all these issues by evolving their understanding of them. People have come to grips with all sorts of things Mrs. Cleaver would never have imagined.
Ross Douthat thinks the GOP can fix itself by compeltely ignoring all this. Ross Douthat thinks the GOP can ignore everything it said about women and gays and about rape and about women’s health issues and contraception and abortion.
The GOP waged a holy war against women’s rights from 2010 to 2012. The GOP waged a holy war against the rights of gays, lesbians, transgenders, and others, who don’t fit into the neat package defined by 1950s conservatism.
How can anyone talk about what the GOP needs to do to fix itself without mentioning any of this?
The Republican Party platform of 2012 was written by right wing religious fanatics who think we can simply pretend the past did not happen, and re-write it to be more amenable to conservative denialists, those same people who hijacked the Republican Party starting in 1964 and who now do not want to be forced to wake up.
How can anyone talk about what the GOP needs to do to fix itself without mentioning the religious fantatics? Without mentioning denialism? Revisionism?
Ralph Reed thought the GOP just needed more likeable candidates, as though the platform was just fine. Marry this to the idea that Democrats only voted for Obama because George Clooney did, and you get an idea of where the Republican Party is headed.
And where it is headed is not toward a solution.
Yes, as Ross Douthat says, “Both shifts, demographic and economic, must be addressed if Republicans are to find a way back to the majority.” But the problem is not, as he claims, the possibility that “the party’s elites will…fasten on the demographic explanation,” but that they will, like Douthat himself, ignore the cultural and social explanations.
Amnesty for illegal aliens will not fix the Republican Party. Douthat points out that, “The Washington Post’s Charles Krauthammer argued that if the Republican Party embraced amnesty and nominated Marco Rubio, it would win the Hispanic vote outright in 2016, solving its demographic problem in one swoop. Judging from the noises emanating from John Boehner and Eric Cantor, the party’s Congressional leadership agrees.”
But that’s not true, and Douthat knows it, saying that “the idea of amnesty as a Latino-winning electoral silver bullet is a fantasy.”
It is a fantasy. As is any solution to the GOP’s problems that does not include a re-evaluation of culture war issues: abortion, contraception, and marriage equality. Or a re-evaluation of the position that the federal government is the enemy. Or a re-evaluation of the position that global warming is a liberal plot.
Millions of Americans learned that is not true in the wake of Hurricane Sandy. I don’t think any of those victims will be voting for a privatized FEMA any time soon. Those folks tend to let your house burn down when you don’t pay up in time. The government helps you even if you’re late on your taxes.
If the Republican Party continues to insist that we all live like Christians should, they are going to continue to lose, no matter what they do to garner Latino votes. Americans have become socially liberal; a complete reversal of the Cleaver’s America.
The best thing the Republican Party can do is reclaim itself. It can oust the religious ideologues and take itself back from the precipice of extinction. But as they say, the first step in curing yourself is recognizing that you have a problem.
And as Ross Douthat and every other Republican who has spoken in the wake of Tuesday’s election has shown, they are not willing to do that.
Douthat says that “after spending billions of those donors’ dollars with nothing to show for it, perhaps Republicans should seek a different path: one in which they raise a little less money but win a few more votes.”
That’s a good start. They just need to focus on real problems, and not problems that are nothing more than a form of math Republicans do to make themselves feel better.
Yes, Mrs. Cleaver. Reality does have a liberal bias.
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Reynardine
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 9:07 am
These people who think the GOP would return us to the 1950′s don’t remember the real 1950Vs,either.
Anne
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 9:11 am
The Republicans have been waging these cultural wars with wedge issues for decades. Thanks to the changing demographics, and a growing awareness of just how damaging these cultural wars are to the kind of unity this country needs to succeed, the cultural wars are bringing them diminishing returns. This has been their substitute for open and honest dialogue even among folks who disagree with each other, and it has done so much to poison the political well. It’s a sad commentary that so many issues we thought were settled last century are used to stir up anger, fear, and ignorance in the 21st. The cultural wars are rooted in a longing for a world that never truly existed, and which was portrayed in such 1950′s shows as Father Knows Best as well as Leave It To Beaver. Along with that longing is a tendency to sanitize memories of the 1950′s, overlooking such things as Jim Crow, the closeting of gays and lesbians, the sexual standards that labeled women as Madonnas or whores, and the Cold War, among other things. These folks are fighting a losing battle, because most Americans do not want to revisit that time but want to move forward.
Reynardine
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 9:16 am
I note, too, certain anachronisms in that picture. The style is very ’50′s, except… the harvest gold appliances and Formica, and the lady’s sandals, both of which I peg at about 1972. ¿¿??
Eykis
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 9:31 am
Rey,
Right On – that is what my now 82 yro Mom looked like in the kitchen – circa 1972 – and then she REBELLED~I grew up when Leave It To Beaver was on in primetime and we knew then that it was NOT REALITY. I graduated from high school in 1971, voted McGovern in 1972 and have never looked back. Always MOVE FORWARD AMERICA~drag the young with you.
Sandra
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 12:21 pm
I just came back from Rememberance Day Ceremony
as we celebrate our brave heroes in Canada(quite teary but beautiful) and am reminded once again that our brave heroes from both sides of the border risked life and limb for our collelctive Freedom and Liberty. The Republican Party of America pay lip service to the lives lost fighting for those Freedoms and Liberties we today enjoy by wanting to dictate how and denying their fellow citizens should live their lives.
The Republican Party does seem to be living in a time warp, dreaming of a world and an era that never truly existed for the majority of Americans unless they were members of the Rich, Elite Landowners and Robber Barons. Times were not simplier and more pleasant for most Americans back then and to continue to feed that lie to their less fortunate supporters today is shameful as well as sinful. Stop with the lies, the racism, the bigotry, the intolerance and hate already, it will get you nowhere as proven on November 6th 2008 and 2012. Most Americans are much more educated and informed today and reject your rose coloured view of America.
Yellow Dog Yankee
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 9:46 am
The Republicans are never going to disavow their fundamentalist followers. They are the core of the party and the leaders best tool since first invited in 40 or so years ago. Give the Koch brothers or Sheldon Adelson a shot of sodium pentathol and you will find that don’t give a shit about abortion, gay marriage, or any let’s pretend war on Christianity. They do care about illegal immigration, but not in the way you might suppose. All of their motives are rooted in their business interests, although I’ll give Adelson props for wanting to control Israeli politics and stay out of federal prison. All of the cultural/religious stuff is a smokescreen used to manipulate first the Birchers, then the Moral Majority and now the Tea Party to do their bidding.
Shiva (Moderator)
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 10:19 am
The GOP will never catch on. The problem is them. The problem is thinking they are gods party. I got news for them, what has god done for them lately?
Elizabeth
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 10:20 pm
Hit them with two hurricanes during the major campaign: one delaying the convention, and Sandy. Thats what god has done for them lately. Do you think they got the message?
RobMajor
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 10:53 am
The voter registration card in my wallet says I am a Republican, but I didn’t vote for a single republican candidate or ballot initiative in this election. To use a physics analogy, the entire political spectrum has been “red-shifted” by its acceleration to the far right in the past 20 years. Where I stand has gone from red to blue and I haven’t moved an inch.
When I registered to vote all those years ago, republicans were not anti-science theocratic homophobes bowing at the feet of an Ayn Rand statute. They were not interested in depriving women of access to contraception and in removing the social safety nets. They were not corporate raiders and vulture capitalists pretending to be job creators. They did not subscribe to the idea that natural disasters are a sky-god’s judgment on the country for giving gay people the same rights as straight people. They did not seek to implement foreign policy in the middle east that is designed to bring about biblical armageddon and the second coming of a messiah. They considered evolution by natural selection to be a settled scientific issue, didn’t try to teach the bible’s creation story in public schools, and didn’t try to re-cast Thomas Jefferson as an evangelical Christian. They were not trying to turn the US into a theocracy every bit as repressive as the government of Iran.
Fortunately, they have slid so far to the right that they have now made themselves unelectable. And they didn’t see it coming. They are so enamored with the insular, mirrored echo-chamber in which they live that they had no idea they were going to lose, and rejected the polling evidence in favor of their “gut feeling” that the sky-god had pre-ordained the Romney victory. The supreme irony is that, rather than self-deport, all those Latinos instead decided to vote, and in so doing, they defeated not only Romney, but also Karl Rove, Sheldon Adelson, the Koch brothers, Donald Trump, Ralph Reed, and the Catholic bishops. Is this a great country or…
RobMajor
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 11:21 am
Sorry to double dip, but … one more thing. Republicans used to honor the wall of separation between church and state. When Kennedy was elected, his Catholic religion was such a concern among the republicans that he was forced to publicly acknowledge that this separation between church and state was and should be absolute. Fast forward to Barry Goldwater, republican presidential candidate who lost to Lyndon Johnson, whose famous quote about the destructive influence of “political preachers” in the republican party was prophetic. Goldwater said:
On religious issues there can be little or no compromise. There is no position on which people are so immovable as their religious beliefs. There is no more powerful ally one can claim in a debate than Jesus Christ, or God, or Allah, or whatever one calls this supreme being. But like any powerful weapon, the use of God’s name on one’s behalf should be used sparingly. The religious factions that are growing throughout our land are not using their religious clout with wisdom. They are trying to force government leaders into following their position 100 percent. If you disagree with these religious groups on a particular moral issue, they complain, they threaten you with a loss of money or votes or both.
I’m frankly sick and tired of the political preachers across this country telling me as a citizen that if I want to be a moral person, I must believe in “A,” “B,” “C” and “D.” Just who do they think they are? And from where do they presume to claim the right to dictate their moral beliefs to me?
And I am even more angry as a legislator who must endure the threats of every religious group who thinks it has some God-granted right to control my vote on every roll call in the Senate. I am warning them today: I will fight them every step of the way if they try to dictate their moral convictions to all Americans in the name of “conservatism.”
He fought and lost. The party of Lincoln has been ruined by…
sandppppr
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 1:12 pm
The republican party won’t change until it changes it’s leaders. As long as it keeps the leaders it has today it’s going to plod on in it’s myopic old negative ways.
harris stein
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 1:13 pm
Nietzsche was wrong. God is not dead. The hairy old white man living in the sky just morphed into ….
And the white Christian fundamentalists have no way of countering this new paradigm. One problem is that some scientists like biologists and theoretical physicists, especially cosmologists and astrophysicists try to have it both ways. They fear being shut out of government research grants if they come out as agnostic panentheists or atheists and then the Christian fundies fall all over themselves when scientists talk about God as if God was still a hairy old white man living in the sky.
I cringe every time I read in a physics book about Einstein’s famous quote about quantum mechanics and the randomness of the universe. He said, “God does not play dice.” Einstein simply refused to believe that quantum mechanics explained the randomness of the universe in a coherent fashion.
The fundies today believe that a hairy old white man living in the sky has chosen them and the republican party just as God chose the Israelites to rule the universe as they and God see fit. I think they need to read a good book besides The Bible, a book that explains quantum mechanical randomness in layman’s terms. But of course this is wishfull thinking.
Daniel
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 3:13 pm
Mrs. Cleaver’s America never actually existed. Not the way it’s misremembered by those who pine for the good ol’ days. Fact is, the human mind is wired and primed to remember the good and forget the bad. It’s nothing more or less than a psychological self-preservation strategy, without which we’d crumble under the paralysing weight of accumulated badness and sadness and sorrow and ugliness and grief. This—and only this—is what retroactively creates the nonexistent good ol’ days.
Those whose happenstance put them and their ilk in privileged positions—rich white straight healthy Anglo Christians, for example—needn’t ever have pondered the situation of the less-privileged, which makes it that much easier for any such unpleasantness to fade out of the rosy picture of yesterday that never was.
Elizabeth
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 10:29 pm
Ask our minorities how the 1950s were. Blacks? Native Americans were stupid, not worth educating, only good if they acting like whites. Asians, in the west they were laborers, mostly heavy. Hispanics-farm workers living in utter poverty “because they liked it that way”. And women, remember when Valium addiction was a major problem for women. Oh, yes we were so happy!
A Walkaway
Nov. 12th, 2012 at 11:02 am
From what elders have said, the late 50s (maybe early 60s – I don’t remember for certain) was when the last Mvskoke family was burned alive by the Klan because they’d been “found out” (those left in the East in our tribe’s homeland tried to pass as white). We still had to wait until the early 70s before “Indian land” stopped being confiscated for “unpaid taxes”, and the early 80s before it became legal for us to exist in the Southeast, we could practice our religion, testify in court, and the Trail of Tears law was taken from the books.
The 50s weren’t a good time for a LOT of people (a living hell according to a couple of elders). Sad to say, a lot of lower-class people watched those shows and thought (some still think) that “Leave it to Beaver” and so on were the way things were supposed to be. They were willfully ignorant of what was going on around them, unless they happened to be taking part (on the oppression side).
In fact, I’ve heard many times the saying “Grew up in a Beaver Cleaver household” – but then you later learn that there was a dark underside to their life.
I’d bet that pedophilia, rape, and incest were really rampant during those years but unreported, because of the “Beaver Cleaver” attitude. I think those shows were some of the most powerful forms of propaganda put out, especially for the era.
JR
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 7:33 pm
I think your analysis is spot-on. But once the GOP rethinks its positions on gay marriage, immigration, women’s rights, protection of millionaires, etc – what is left? What will the new GOP platform be, and how will it define itself? It is hard to give up the Mrs. Cleaver platform, when you don’t know what to be going forward. The GOP is faced with an existential crisis.
bambam1911
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 7:33 pm
Change and conservative are oxy morons….Repulicans have out dated and old views, and uncapable of true change, because to much of their party is filled with hateful indoctranation. Do you really think Ga, Miss, Ala,La…etc. is going to change. Thats the difference from the Dem party Liberals are open to new ideas, changing times, progressives are foward thinking, innovative. You are trying to get a party to do something it is by nature incapable of….
Cleaver Neighbor
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 9:45 pm
You are wrong. Mrs Cleaver’s world did exist. I lived in it in Chicago near the Museum of Science and Industry. I walked home from school for lunch PREPARED BY MY MOTHER. After school I came home to those milk and cookies you think were imaginary. Dad came home from his work every night and we and my brother ate a home-cooked meal of (say) fresh whitefish that my mother had bought from the very hands of the owner of the fish store.
I played with my friends and rode a bicycle on streets that were so safe a five-year-old could walk away for blocks and no one worried he would be stolen.
I went on Halloween trick or treating with five-year-olds only in the company of eight-year-olds. No adults were necessary.
At age 12 I could bicycle 4 miles to Lake Michigan, having bought fresh bait at 3 AM. My parents encouraged this; it helped make me self-reliant. Even with nothing but bars open at that time, there was little concern that something would happen to me.
YOU have the foggy picture of history. But the Rockwellian world with white picket fences was real.
Elizabeth
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 10:36 pm
I grew up in the 50s too, and yes, because I was white and middle class much of it was like you describe. But that was far from universal.
SinghX
Nov. 12th, 2012 at 8:26 am
Ahhh…good times, good times. But you left out the part about going to school and standing around waiting for the bell to ring; gee, did you and your friends say to one another,
“Oh Boy! Let’s go gang! It’s time for our daily reaffirmation of loyalty to our flag as our patriotic duty, something we can’t wait to do everyday single instead of playing. And you know what else? Us kids get to say that word “indivisible” which none of us can even pronounce, understand or will ever use in real life…Oh Boy! Let’s go gang!”
And, then there was teacher(s), “Miss Chignonbun” who got her teaching degree from a “Normal School” 30 years prior who knows only three things: sit with your hands folded on your desk in order to learn, line up in two rows for the air raid drills/lunch, and most important, NO TALKING! Remember, the sirens go off at lunch (daily/once a week) as you walked home, wondering, ‘Aren’t the Russians smart enough to know that the sirens go off at noon…?”
I watched the Cleavers and laughed (Dobbie Gillis was much more intellectually stimulating!). Nobody in my house/white suburb looked or acted like the Cleavers…well one woman tried and we all dreaded her fake smile. I didn’t know the word “subversive” until I was older; but I understood that when I saw Mrs. C on the TV, she was “subversive” not the norm.
A Walkaway
Nov. 12th, 2012 at 11:17 am
(Laugh) that teacher was still going in the 60s. I remember that well.
It didn’t matter if you learned or not, as long as you behaved and were obedient.
Anne
Nov. 12th, 2012 at 8:55 am
The point is not that some people didn’t grow up in that kind of environment. The point is that the GOP wants to take us back to that time while ignoring all the ugly undercurrents like Jim Crow, the sexual standards that penalized women, the Cold War, and the mind-numbing conformity. Even though I was a small child at the time, I picked up on certain things. For example, by attending predominately white schools from first grade on, I picked up very quickly on how black kids were often judged by white teachers. I also saw the mind-numbing conformity in how we were all expected to behave. The turbulent sixties were a reaction to the undercurrents of the fifties and we ignore that reality at our own peril.
Reynardine
Nov. 12th, 2012 at 9:20 pm
Yes and no.
I grew up in the Fifties in Park Ridge. There was less danger from total strangers, and yes, husbands could often afford their wives staying home and preparing meals…which my mother did. She also weighed eighty-five pounds from taking pep pills by day, and on weekends, you didn’t see her till late morning because of the Phenobarbitol she took by night. The rather weird girl down the road from us was molesting her kid sister, but that’s okay- she was only doing what Daddy taught her. He taught the same damn thing to my best friend when she was not yet twelve. The doctor’s daughter was being doctored by Daddy. I could go on. But we were the odd ones, because we didn’t go to church.
Did anyone talk about it? Not much, not really, not then…no. not till later, sometimes much later. Everyone was so concerned with *looking* normal. My own household was not like that, but we didn’t talk about Daddy’s temper or Mommy’s pills. And some families really did live up to the “ideal”. For most of us, though, it was what Jane Roberts might have called a “camouflage universe”.
NoE
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 9:47 pm
They really do want to go back to the 1950s that they remember – when they were children and had no responsibilities. I was a kid in the ’50s, and parents tried very hard to put up a good front and keep their children from any knowledge that would ‘ruin’ their childhood.
As a result, many grew up to think everything was wonderful, and had (and still have) no clue about the dark parts.
NoE
Nov. 11th, 2012 at 9:50 pm
Oh, and of course, all those women and ‘colored’ folk and foreigners were kept in their right places, because there was no other place to be.
Thank goodness people are waking up to the reality and wonderfulness of everyone – not just some.
A Walkaway
Nov. 12th, 2012 at 11:04 am
Well put!!!
sara
Nov. 12th, 2012 at 6:26 am
Better a friendly denial than an unwilling compliance. www.womenhealthjournal.co...
Ebony
Nov. 12th, 2012 at 11:17 am
Well sorry GOP but I was born in 1971, a more liberated time for women and I refuse to be a 50s woman in 2012.
SinghX
Nov. 12th, 2012 at 11:33 am
The GOP was around then and heard they “I am Woman Here Me Roar”…In the mid-s 60′s, the GOP also heard a new expression, one that probably has change the way most males perceived themselves and other men of their time…the phrase was, “Male Chauvinist Pig”. They knew what it meant as they know now what women call them…
Oh, they know the reality and history; they just choose a mythical version created by Hollywood during the Depression (not the 50′s). Movies were made to make people feel better, escape reality. Americans during that period were reassured that somehow, somewhere, a normal American dream still carried on our collective fairy tale.
I refuse to be a caricature of a fairy tale regardless of the era!